How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  1. Nurul BOSSmy

    Nurul BOSSmyPrije sat

    oh my god, its make my cry

  2. Jace Angel

    Jace AngelPrije 4 sati

    You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come. Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places. All these are the beginning of birth pains. Matthew NKJV 24:6-8

  3. violinhunter2

    violinhunter2Prije 5 sati

    I had to turn this off halfway through - but I know that's okay. I'll be back.

  4. qatrelnada jubran

    qatrelnada jubranPrije 5 sati

    👏🏼👏🏼.👏🏼

  5. Soumya Pattanaik

    Soumya PattanaikPrije 11 sati

    Thanks !!! i so much needed this today. great talk

  6. ANIL KAPUR

    ANIL KAPURPrije 14 sati

    This is one of the challenges we all encounter in life; Fredrik's methodology to deal with it is a simple yet effective tool to deploy.

  7. Marta Ibáñez Gutiérrez

    Marta Ibáñez GutiérrezPrije 16 sati

    Simple and powerful. [[It's all about me when I do not speak up]] CHEERS! You were JUST in time.

  8. Masamba Evelyn Nyakaisiki

    Masamba Evelyn NyakaisikiPrije 19 sati

    I have learnt a lot thank you 😊

  9. 富勒烯

    富勒烯Prije 19 sati

    Mr.Imbo: Were there still have people want this moist euros? Nobody: someone: it's still money Mr.Imbo: Thanks for god, I almost scare you to take it personally.

  10. Ali bryant

    Ali bryantPrije sat

    what

  11. JZRX SOLE

    JZRX SOLEPrije 19 sati

    I hate horoscope mfs, but I’m a Libra and I feel this man articulated exactly how I go about my issues by putting myself in the other peoples shoes. The only thing I’d like to add is there is a healthy balance between letting things go and allowing people to take advantage of you’re niceness. By the way that ending line made me get out of my seat and clap, I’m not even in the audience😂

  12. Duy Nhật

    Duy NhậtPrije 21 sat

    that 20euro ending touch my heart

  13. Ghayle Colinares

    Ghayle ColinaresPrije 23 sati

    How a personal attack can't be taken personally Ted?

  14. DonDaniel

    DonDanielPrije dan

    MJ watching this be like : This is all I needed...

  15. jy jt

    jy jtPrije dan

    Thank you for being in my life.

  16. Akhilesh Sharma

    Akhilesh SharmaPrije dan

    This is the best video ever..the most basic concept to learn

  17. Sounds of Relaxation | Modern relaxation music

    Sounds of Relaxation | Modern relaxation musicPrije dan

    Great video!

  18. Razan Nasser

    Razan NasserPrije dan

    best man out there

  19. Maria Eugênia Rêgo

    Maria Eugênia RêgoPrije dan

    Thank you so much for this inspiring talk, Frederik! Especially the message in the very end, about our own value, is really something we all should keep in mind and in our hearts 👏

  20. Anwaar ALRIGHEEWHUY

    Anwaar ALRIGHEEWHUYPrije 2 dana

    It is that greatest video i have been watched,He was so authentic sense . It is helped me really thank you sir .

  21. Monique Naidoo

    Monique NaidooPrije 2 dana

    Jesus loves you all ♥️

  22. bandana panwar

    bandana panwarPrije 2 dana

    amazing!!!!!!!!!!!

  23. your name

    your namePrije 2 dana

    China is developing new viruses while democrats focus on Trump and Jan 6th. Joe Biden and china are laughing at America.Defunding police is a way to fund a Gestapo. Democrats have destroyed their own cities. WAKE UP TRUMP2024

  24. Mhara Clara Lds

    Mhara Clara LdsPrije 2 dana

    The last part touched me and I almost wanted to cry.. i will always keep my value! Thank so much for this message sir!❤️ God bless you more!

  25. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello Mhara Clara Lds, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  26. Nicolas Williams

    Nicolas WilliamsPrije 3 dana

    Not about me.thrown off balance

  27. Nicolas Williams

    Nicolas WilliamsPrije 3 dana

    Me to we.intention .

  28. Gabriel Bruzzi

    Gabriel BruzziPrije 3 dana

    This lesson is great for all couples...especially husbands and wives!

  29. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello Gabriel, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  30. jane andrade

    jane andradePrije 3 dana

    PROVÉRBIOS BÍBLICOS 25-17 SEJA RARO OS TEUS PÉS NA CASA DO TEU PÓXIMO, PARA QUE NÃO SE ENFADE DE TI E PASSE A TI ODIAR.

  31. thanos

    thanosPrije 3 dana

    the opposite of mj

  32. Gift Effiong

    Gift EffiongPrije 3 dana

    I can’t forget this in a hurry Fredrick, it impacted my heart. I will rewatch and post to many. Thank you 🙏🏻

  33. Gift Effiong

    Gift EffiongPrije 2 dana

    @Frederik Imbo Thank you Fredrick.

  34. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello Gift Effiong, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  35. Vampierre Bytes

    Vampierre BytesPrije 3 dana

    The mammoth tiger thankfully guard because taxicab timely drum amidst a better example. frantic, evasive lunge

  36. chinmay chandraunshuh

    chinmay chandraunshuhPrije 3 dana

    wonderful ted talk, beautifully articulated.

  37. chinmay chandraunshuh

    chinmay chandraunshuhPrije 2 dana

    @Frederik Imbo surely Frederick! as a matter of fact, it was my dad who shared your video with me and my mom. we both found it incredible! I shall share it with as many friends as I can! now I can think much more selflessly after listening to your ideas about anger management and self-control. Thanks for your message, and thanks once again for this beautiful ted talk of yours!

  38. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello Chinmay, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  39. Rose Link

    Rose LinkPrije 3 dana

    Great info! Am I the only one that heard a high pitch sound on this recording?

  40. Rose Link

    Rose LinkPrije 2 dana

    Hi thanks for your response. I heard it on my cellphone , my headphones and a portable Bluetooth speaker. I was able to get through it though. Thank you.

  41. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hi Rose Link. Sorry to read that there was a high pitched, annoying beep that disturbed you so much. I actually have no idea where it came from. Perhaps you could try listening to my presentation from a different device and tell me if you still have the same thing? It's strange. Only a minority of people apparently hear that irritating sound. Hopefully you can listen to my story properly on another device.

  42. Beksultan Sadirov

    Beksultan SadirovPrije 3 dana

    You should understand that “it’s just a business”

  43. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hi Beksultan. Yes, and just because it's just a business, we shouldn't take things personally.

  44. Deucez

    DeucezPrije 3 dana

    Am I the only one that thinks he sounds like the moon from the Mighty Boosh? 👀

  45. Nicky Empress

    Nicky EmpressPrije 3 dana

    Interesting motivational speech but I didn't like the fact that you put the money in your mouth.

  46. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello Nicky, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I can comfort you. the talk was launched in March of 2020, but was recorded in February of 2019. So long before corona! And the note was sanitized beforehand. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  47. stillettastill

    stillettastillPrije 3 dana

    Oh this trick with money was really good in the end of his speech. Nice presentation and important subject to speak about it👍

  48. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 2 dana

    Hello stillettastill! Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  49. Liam Tarbet

    Liam TarbetPrije 3 dana

    Laddd

  50. Jacob perezy

    Jacob perezyPrije 4 dana

    This dude sounds like shrek and donkeys baby

  51. anthonysilard

    anthonysilardPrije 4 dana

    Such a great video, so important to address this issue.

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    Khánh Chi 1000K Vào Timbanvn xyzPrije 4 dana

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  54. Doctor Strong

    Doctor StrongPrije 4 dana

    James Faulkner.

  55. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    haha! I'll add that name to the list of celebrities I seem to resemble. According to some people I look like Kevin Debruyne (soccer player) Boris Becker (tennis player) Peter schmeichel (soccer goalkeeper) TinTin (cartoon character) Prince Harry Arthur Weasley (a character in Harry Potter) Mitchell Pritchett (Modern Family) Sebastian vettel (Formule 1 pilot) Kevin McKidd (actor in Grey's anatomy) Jonny Bairstow (cricket player)

  56. Yuvaveer Anudeep

    Yuvaveer AnudeepPrije 5 dana

    Oops everywhere the talk is referring to he/him, feminists will screw him

  57. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    haha! If they do, now they know how not to take it personally!

  58. Obert Nyambe

    Obert NyambePrije 5 dana

    my first ted talk that i listened to. thanks Mr Frederik.

  59. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    Hi Obert! What an honour! Thank you. I hope you liked it.

  60. Thuỷ Nguyễn

    Thuỷ NguyễnPrije 5 dana

    21/7/2021 bắt đầu luyện nghe t.anh từ video này💪💪

  61. pacer21

    pacer21Prije 5 dana

    His last point was the most powerful one that I hope to remember going forward.

  62. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    Hello Pacer21, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  63. Nivedita Ghosh

    Nivedita GhoshPrije 5 dana

    Amazing loved it

  64. Nivedita Ghosh

    Nivedita GhoshPrije 4 dana

    @Frederik Imbo it was very inspiring n yess when life gives u reality check you r tested every time in this way really how to not take all things personally no matter it's personal or professional one should follow encourage inspire oneself to try new things learn but not to get disappointed 😊

  65. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    Hello Niveditha, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  66. Onore!

    Onore!Prije 5 dana

    What a load of bull A referree to learn to not taking stuff personally? Just go work at Macdonalds

  67. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 4 dana

    Maybe that's even a faster and more difficult way to learn it. I agree.

  68. Denisha Jodie

    Denisha JodiePrije 5 dana

    The sulky aquarius naturally hover because stepmother reversely kneel out a cute invention. miscreant, obscene relative

  69. Peter Meyer

    Peter MeyerPrije 5 dana

    - Someone, who doesnt take things personally: Someone, who doesnt care at all, maybe a psychopath. - Someone, who takes all things personally: An egocentric believer in social rights and social/emotional intelligence. - Healthy/firm person (or generally born before 2000): Probably doesnt need to be told, what to take personally and what not. Frederik Imbo gets other words and things wrong also: - Taking things personally is not the same as considering things important! The guy 2:10 in the car behind yours is addressing specifically you, so its correct to take his angry message personally. But that doesnt mean one should consider this message or him to be of importance. Same goes for most of the other examples he tells. Most of them are examples of things, which ought to be taken personally simply because they are and wouldnt make any sense otherwise. - Beeing right is not the same as insisting on beeing right! "Do you want to be right?" Well, dont you? And dont you want others to strive for that, too? Really? Isnt beeing right important and good? What about that referee-example and why should there be a referee, if he didnt care about the game to be played correctly? What if a pilot or a chirurg doesnt care about beeing right anymore? Who wants to be in that plane or under that scalpel? Does anyone really want to live in a society with a large proportion of people not acknowledging what is right? Also, he gives no explanation for his strange conclusion, that one can experience more harmony in the presence of people who dont give a f*ck about anything. Insisting on beeing right or in other words avoiding to even think of beeing wrong is a matter of the ego as is going on stage and acting or giving a presentation like this. Its totally ok to feed the ego for beeing right as long as one cares to be right in the first place.

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    Flemming LundPrije 6 dana

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    James RayPrije 6 dana

    I'm proud to hear people talk about good jobs done by mrs kate, this has been my seven successive cycle of trade with kate and i must say i don't want to stop anytime soon. Trading has been very good

  72. Peaceful Phrases

    Peaceful PhrasesPrije 6 dana

    Such an amazing msg. Eye opener.

  73. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Peaceful Phrases, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  74. Ian Napier

    Ian NapierPrije 6 dana

    Thank you

  75. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    With pleasure Ian.

  76. tobbe0zero

    tobbe0zeroPrije 6 dana

    Man, that first example was a horrible one considering the points he's trying to make. If you are inviting someone to go to the movies and they decline, claiming they have to work and then go to dinner with other friends, that is something you should definitely take personally. There's no "oh maybe it's because of this thing or that". They have lied to you instead of just telling the truth and saying they had other plans. If you don't take that personally something is very wrong with you because that is pretty much the definition of someone doing something against you personally. The same goes for the "looking at you and then laughing" example.

  77. tobbe0zero

    tobbe0zeroPrije 5 dana

    @Frederik Imbo I mean, I can understand what you're saying and the point you are trying to make, and for most of your talk I agree with you and think it is good advice. It's just that I don't think the specific examples I mentioned help proove your point. I understand wanting to see things from the positive side but I believe there is a limit to that, when someone lies to you like that it I believe it should make you angry. If they had a good reason and a positive intention to do something else they would've explained it to you and probably apologized. In which case, great! it was probably not something against you personally. But if they then instead went behind your back and tried to hide it from you that is a breach of trust and I really don't see how there's any positive intention in that nor how that is something you shouldn't take personally, seeing as it is very much directed at you, personally

  78. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Tobbe0zero. I'am sad reading your message. Even when someone lies to you, you shouldn't take it personally. Why not? First of all, because it does not make you happy. It makes you angry. Secondly because the other one who lies, has a positive intention. They just don't dare to be honest. Not taking something personally does however not mean that I agree with them and still want to be friends. My talk only explains how you not take something personally. Nothing more. Nothing less.

  79. Nightshade

    NightshadePrije 6 dana

    I’m currently editing a novel that I’ve been working on since 2018. I finally got an editor, and she was super nice-her comments and critiques were, too. But as soon as I got the manuscript back with the critique, I lost all motivation to get it published. This video really helped me realize that I wasn’t showing myself empathy for the smallest mistakes. Thank you ☺️

  80. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Nightshade. Good luck with the publication of your book.

  81. Proby Rhymes

    Proby RhymesPrije 6 dana

    Turns out the whole Dilemma is just all about our Ego Tripping, this was enlightening

  82. Proby Rhymes

    Proby RhymesPrije dan

    @Frederik Imbo much appreciated sir.

  83. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Proby Rhymes! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

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    hope LinePrije 5 dana

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  85. Jennifer Gallegos

    Jennifer GallegosPrije 6 dana

    That was excellent..especially the ending

  86. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Jennifer. Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  87. Eloisa Añasco Villavicencio

    Eloisa Añasco VillavicencioPrije 6 dana

    Wooowww!!! This guy is awesome!! the very best! Loved him!

  88. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Eloisa, (funny fact: I grew up in Sint-Eloois-Vijve ... It makes me think of your name) Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  89. MotoScientist

    MotoScientistPrije 6 dana

    Another aspect of this (particularly with the football referee'ing) is imposter syndrome. As a new referee, having never played football previously, feeling like you don't belong or don't know enough/aren't experienced enough, its very easy to then take things personally. I'm the same. I'm an academic researcher and imposter syndrome is awful (and very real!). Also as a rugby coach, I never played rugby..who am I to teach others how to play!? I have been on many courses, and know I can coach..but still, I take comments personally when i'm on the side of the pitch with the kids playing, and I'm directing them.. the parent's say things they think I don't hear

  90. MotoScientist

    MotoScientistPrije 5 dana

    @Frederik Imbo thanks Frederik. I would also like to thank you for a fantastic talk. It was very close to my heart too, I get these feelings often. Its very comforting when others also experience it, to know I'm not alone or being oversensitive. But you also gave some really excellent tips to overcome it, which I am grateful for.. and intend to put into practice! Take care ☺

  91. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi MotoScientist. Thank you so much for your message!!! I get so many messages here, mostly because people want to thank me for my talk. But you... really gave me something very valuable. You taught me the Imposter syndrome. Thank you for sharing your small story so openly with me! Good luck with coaching the kids on the pitch!

  92. amine salim

    amine salimPrije 7 dana

    Nice messages

  93. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Amine, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  94. Muzeem khan

    Muzeem khanPrije 7 dana

    The comment section is taking the crowd's lack of reaction personally - on behalf of the speaker.. There should be a Ted talk to deal with that..

  95. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    hahaha Muzeem! Good point!

  96. レイ

    レイPrije 7 dana

    how to not

  97. レイ

    レイPrije 7 dana

    how to***

  98. JHON ALEXANDER Rincon

    JHON ALEXANDER RinconPrije 7 dana

    Al final si le dio los veinte euros??

  99. Jill Allerton

    Jill AllertonPrije 7 dana

    Wow this hits the proverbial nail on the head. Thank you so much.

  100. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Jill! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  101. Divyanshi Agrawal

    Divyanshi AgrawalPrije 7 dana

    Thank you so much for this talk , it was awesome. It came to me at the very right time. Mainly the last few minutes.

  102. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Divyanshi! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  103. shazadster

    shazadsterPrije 7 dana

    Michael Jordan takes this personally.

  104. shazadster

    shazadsterPrije 5 dana

    @Frederik Imbo I feel so good that you replied :)))))))))

  105. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Haha, indeed. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan was just trying to do his best. He was trying to deal with his unmet need for recognition. He just wanted to be appreciated.

  106. Monman Thecom

    Monman ThecomPrije 7 dana

    In this world, emotional intelligence is very much needed. Hope people actually give some thought about it.

  107. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Monman. Very much needed indeed; both emotional intelligence and empathy.

  108. Monman Thecom

    Monman ThecomPrije 5 dana

    @Peter Meyer I agree with the Intelligence + caring, driven by empathy. Good point

  109. Peter Meyer

    Peter MeyerPrije 5 dana

    You probably mean, this world needs people, who are both intelligent and carring driven by empathy. Or do you mean, that one needs to be both intelligent and aware of other peoples emotions to get along in this world? Anyways, emotional intelligence doesnt exist. Its a false categorization. Its just as nonsensical as speaking of monday intelligence. And btw. abstraction and categorization form a category of intelligence, which is worth to remember everytime one hears someone talk about social/emotional intelligence.

  110. Hudson Burgess

    Hudson BurgessPrije 7 dana

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  111. Sabina wtf

    Sabina wtfPrije 7 dana

    muy buena la ted talk pero el final está copiado de Merlí, una serie catalana

  112. Robert Sinnerman

    Robert SinnermanPrije 7 dana

    Screaming pirch at 2kHz. What clown is responsible for completely ruining the audio on this otherwise wonderful video?

  113. you and i are like my buttcheeks after all the shit that goes between us we always get back together

    you and i are like my buttcheeks after all the shit that goes between us we always get back togetherPrije 7 dana

    bro is this TED talk implying i take things personally? excuse me?!!

  114. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    haha!

  115. Shahadah Bobby

    Shahadah BobbyPrije 7 dana

    I love this and understand and agree with everything but what if you’re right what if all the things that you’re thinking is true what do you do then? Just let it go?

  116. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    When you're 100% right and the other one has another opinion or tells you that you're lying, even then you don't have to take it personally. Just speak up and let it go for the rest. you KNOW that you're right. No need to prove it. Live in harmony with yourself.

  117. Dita Wahyu

    Dita WahyuPrije 7 dana

    Thanks Mechelen, you did point out the questions that has bothered me so much when I feel bad while being criticized: because it touches the nerve from the past. Thanks

  118. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Dita, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  119. Paula

    PaulaPrije 8 dana

    Wow - that last bit with the money - worth every minute of this talk just to get to that bit.

  120. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Paula, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  121. Shawthan

    ShawthanPrije 8 dana

    Michael Jordan should watch this.

  122. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Haha, indeed Shawthan. If you know him personally, send him a personal message. At the same time; Michael Jordan was just trying to do his best. He was trying to deal with his unmet need for recognition. He just wanted to be appreciated.

  123. Liam C

    Liam CPrije 8 dana

    15:14 Summary of talk

  124. Muhammad Osama Qureshi

    Muhammad Osama QureshiPrije 8 dana

    I have watch this 2 times before and now its my third time . It really help's me on "how not to take thing personally".

  125. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Muhammad. Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you, to that extent that you even watched this 3 times!!! Wow. Thx. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  126. Noe Sullivan

    Noe SullivanPrije 8 dana

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  127. Alberto Garcia

    Alberto GarciaPrije 8 dana

    I believe that people should be kind to each other. I take it personally daily it wears me out to the point of depression.

  128. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Alberto. Thank you for sharing this. I feel joyful and hopeful reading your first sentence. When I read your second phrase, I feel sad. Please try to protect yourself by not taking things personally if people are not kind to you and others.

  129. Saniya Idrisi

    Saniya IdrisiPrije 8 dana

    The ending hit me hard, didn't expect that coming damn.

  130. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Saniya, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  131. Jia Hui Zhou

    Jia Hui ZhouPrije 8 dana

    🥰🥰🥰

  132. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Thank you Jia!

  133. Haleem Abdurahman

    Haleem AbdurahmanPrije 8 dana

    How on earth did I listen to this till the end...? I am taking this personally.

  134. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    haha Haleem. Please don't. Otherwise; watch again!

  135. Sumie Rega

    Sumie RegaPrije 8 dana

    I needed this right now I take things too personal and I hate it I just have a painful past

  136. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Sumie, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  137. Teresa Olofson

    Teresa OlofsonPrije 8 dana

    the notion to acknowledge First my feelings is a Game Changer!

  138. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hi Teresa! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you, especially the point of acknowledging your feelings. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  139. khaled elian

    khaled elianPrije 8 dana

    فعلا رائع هذا الشي يحصل معي على طول you are ammazing ,this thing is happen s with me daily.

  140. khaled elian

    khaled elianPrije 5 dana

    @Frederik Imbo I am very grateful for your kind words Thank you so much Dear.

  141. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Khaled, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  142. Isis H

    Isis HPrije 8 dana

    Very beautiful speech

  143. Isis H

    Isis HPrije 5 dana

    @Frederik Imbo Thank you so much for your kind words!! I'm practising already 👏👏👏👏👏👏 Thank you for sharing the knowledge ❤❤❤❤

  144. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 5 dana

    Hello Isis, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  145. Himalie Manathunga

    Himalie ManathungaPrije 8 dana

    fantastic speech

  146. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hello Himalie, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  147. Teresa Olofson

    Teresa OlofsonPrije 9 dana

    rrrrrrrrr yes exhusting!

  148. Teresa Olofson

    Teresa OlofsonPrije 9 dana

    IM SICK of BEING IGNORED!!!!!!!

  149. Teresa Olofson

    Teresa OlofsonPrije 8 dana

    @Frederik Imbo i am trying to remember to acknowledge my feelings and or acknowledge what is happening...this is cutting out a place for me to feel/identify (SLOW DOWN CONNECT) so i can get help and find a way to use the Marshal Rosenburg and others communication skills...using those Impact Statements...I've been to these communicatino seminars that teach the exact same ideas..that its NEVER about you and have been working on it for many years..so its just so helpful to find like mainded channels like YOURS so a HUGE THANK and i will keep endevoring to SLOW DOWN ENOUGH to make the proper impact thank u for asking and offering the BEST SUPPORT :) CHEERs ) WITh LOVE thank u for Your Passion to COMMUNICATE CONSCIOUSLY! WHAT A GOOD WORLD after all :)

  150. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hi Teresa, tell me, how come that you feel like this? The question is; what can you do about it?

  151. kS3big ksudjoht

    kS3big ksudjohtPrije 9 dana

    So you come home and you would like to wind down and share your experience, but you find your wife cheating on you with the mail man. Don't take that personally.

  152. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Indeed. It's hard, but is has nothing to do with you personally. Apparently your wife has other needs.

  153. Sensza

    Sensza Prije 9 dana

    Don't live your life through the eyes of others!

  154. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Very true Sensza!

  155. the black spot

    the black spotPrije 9 dana

    Sounds like a great attitude to have when you are certain that no matter what you say, 50 percent of the people you say it to will be disgusted with you.🤣 I am still listening to the second half of the strategy. I've had recognition and not had it ,but I've never wanted for it, except as a child.....oh sheepdip.🤣🤣🤣🤣 I had to add this , currency fails, if this is a super true comparison then one time you won't keep your value, at death your value will either go up or down or both . Time either will or won't be a factor . Perhaps your value at death won't be realized for tens of thousands of years?

  156. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Thank you.

  157. pam allred

    pam allredPrije 9 dana

    So true

  158. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Thanks Pam Allred!

  159. Darnell Rotz

    Darnell RotzPrije 9 dana

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  160. sheepy leepy

    sheepy leepyPrije 9 dana

    - this needs to be shared all oveer the world and stuff

  161. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hello Sheepy Leepy! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  162. Chris Abbott

    Chris AbbottPrije 9 dana

    Brother Imbo thanks...

  163. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    You're welcome brother Chris!

  164. Logan Ram

    Logan RamPrije 9 dana

    WOW!!!!!

  165. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hello Logan! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

  166. العقل الباطن المجهول

    العقل الباطن المجهولPrije 9 dana

    Why not be in your videos Translate to Arabic, thank you for your entrepreneurship

  167. العقل الباطن المجهول

    العقل الباطن المجهولPrije 8 dana

    @Frederik Imbo I am happy for your question, my question and my answer, thank you

  168. كرم الامير

    كرم الاميرPrije 8 dana

    I also agreed with you in this view we hope that they take this

  169. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hi العقل الباطن المجهول, The subs are made by volunteers. When there's an Arabic person who wants to do this, I'd be glad!

  170. WindowsTutorials

    WindowsTutorialsPrije 9 dana

    This guy is god for me

  171. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    super!

  172. ce.av1 AV

    ce.av1 AVPrije 9 dana

    Nice!

  173. Frederik Imbo

    Frederik ImboPrije 8 dana

    Hello ce.av1 AV, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo